Every relationship at the beginning always seems very perfect, especially when one, or both parties involved, are eager to settle down.
The unquestionable desire to settle down usually overwhelms one, or both parties that they consciously or unconsciously ignore some red flags that would cause harm in the nearest future.
Sometimes, your partner is not all that they seem to be. The partner, who seems like Mr Right, or Miss Right, could be so wrong for you after all. The interesting thing is, the other party involved in the relationship would be able to know if their partner is not the right person if only they make a conscious effort to watch out for the ‘red flags’.
Some people misquote ”looking out for red flags” by saying you are just finding faults. No one is perfect, and there are some characters you notice that you as an individual knows that would change. However, there are some that don’t change, they only develop to dangerous acts at some point in the relationship.
With the ongoing rate of domestic violence ravaging marriages and relationships, I thought it wise to highlight some red flags everyone should look out for before embarking/ or getting married.
In this article, I will list 7 of them:
1.) If They Always Talk About Their Ex
This sounds very harmless, but if you ever notice that your partner always talks about his/her ex, try and find out what existed or still exists between both of them. As the saying goes ”where a man’s treasure is, his heart lies”. You either talk about remembering some good old times with your ex or mistakes/ regrets you made.
If it seems that they might get back together (frequent calls, emergency situations where your partner is a shoulder to cry on, and so on), take heed. If that is the case, consider parting ways before you invest too much in the relationship.
When a partner in a relationship is always referring to their ex, it shows that there is a problem somewhere. In such cases, they keep on saying things like, ‘When I was with Tony’, ‘When I was with Rita’. The other partner should take note of such constant references to the ex. Ita a Red Flag
2.) If They Seem To Get Friendly With Every Opposite Sex That Comes Their Way
This might sound very funny, or may sound like one is jealous etc. Not necessarily, if your partner is always very excited to make friends or associate with everyone (opposite sex) who comes his way, then I would tell you categorically, it’s a Red Flag.
If for some reason, he does not have respect for you, and always associates with every female, or she associates with every male that comes around her. She has no restrictions or limits, then I can bet with you, you might have cases of infidelity later on.
Everyone has a limit/ sense of pride, there should be limits/restrictions. Don’t get me wrong, I am not promoting pride, arrogance or hate. But in life/ relationships there is always a limit.
3.) Lying
One of the major Red Flags to look out for is Lying. Lying is the source of many other problems that come up in marriages.
One of the major red flags people ignore is lying. When you are with somebody and they are always lying to other people in your presence, one day they will lie to other people about you or lie to you.
4.) Unfaithfulness
Partners that have shown signs of unfaithfulness in the course of courtship are unlikely to be faithful after marriage.
Unfaithfulness is related to lying. When you are with somebody who cannot be truthful, they are likely to be unfaithful.
5.) Always Try To Friend-Zone You
If your partner is always unwilling to state his relationship with you, then there is a problem.
When somebody is fully committed, they will always tell people that you are their fiancé or fiancée. But when they are not fully committed, they always introduce their partners as ‘my friend’. Anybody that is involved in such a situation should be careful. It’s a Red Flag.
6.) How They Treat Other People
Never judge your partner by the way he/she treats you, how your partner treats other people is the most accurate way to ascertain their true nature.
People in relationships, who are thinking of settling down, should also watch out for rudeness on the part of their partners.
Rudeness, in most cases, leads to physical abuse and battering in marriages. When a man does not respect his mother, definitely he will not respect his wife
