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MUST-READ: See What Infidelity In Your Marriage Will Cost You

Generally speaking, people do not profess their wedding vows with the intention of cheating. Infidelity is the result of a series of small compromises that leads one into another’s arms.

Good or bad, we live in an age where people want instant gratification and where they are not willing to really communicate and work on their problems without turning for answers in the arms of another man or woman. Hence, the major cause of Infidelity in marriages.

Is it caused by a loveless marriage or rather by a marriage partner who is unwilling to commit and work through problems? The following are some of my thoughts on the causes of infidelity that can sneak up on individuals in a marriage:

1.) Inappropriate Physical Actions

This particular cause should be the most obvious as certain actions should be reserved for your spouse alone.  One simple cause of infidelity can be inappropriate physical affection. We need to have clearly defined lines in our own minds about what is not acceptable, whether that be holding hands, a lingering hug or kissing. Crossing these lines can become a cause of infidelity in your marriage.

2.) Lack Of Respect At Home

Does your spouse treat you well? Do you treat your spouse well in return? Over the years I have seen many People, for example, run off with their subjects or other staff. It’s really not surprising that some people in general are often worshipped by their staff at work, but in contrast at home, they are treated with a lack of respect. Does ego stroking lead to affairs? Absolutely. Everyone enjoys a compliment; it would go a long way if spouses found ways to compliment each other regularly.

3.) Being Inconsiderate Of Marital Tension

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Every marriage goes through ups and downs. Whether it be a fight, a loss of some sort, or even the first few weeks post-partum, it is critically important in these circumstances to remind yourself of your commitment to the marriage Otherwise, your frustration can become a cause of infidelity when you start looking for comfort outside your marriage.

4.) Circumstances When You’re Not at Your Best

All of us have moments when we aren’t at our best. Some examples of this are those moments we find ourselves bored, lonely, angry, tired, or hungry. If we’re honest with ourselves, it’s in these moments that we make our worst decisions. At these times, it is doubly important to be aware we’re not at our best and to be on guard for moments of temptation.

5.) Silence
Silence creates distance between couples. Don’t keep silent over those little changes you notice in your spouse, you don’t have to wait for issues to aggravate before you talk it out.

6.) Getting Married For The Wrong Reason
If you got into your marriage based on reasons that are not right, very soon you will get tired of that partner and it can lead to infidelity if not well managed.

7.) Lack Of Appreciation
Learn to appreciate your spouse for every little or big things they do. Apart from what they do, you should appreciate how they look and love them for who they are. Express your appreciation with your mouth, say how beautiful they look, how special they make you feel.


To avoid infidelity in your marriage, you have to avoid so many things and do a lot of things. It is one of the worst things that can happen in your marriage. It is one of the main reasons that couples seek divorce. It destroys the foundation on which a marriage is built and can cause severe damage to the relationship.

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One of the big reasons why relationships struggle after the discovery that a spouse has been unfaithful is because it breeds a devastating amount of distrust and trust is sacred in all marriages. It also causes an incredible amount of grief, not only to the person who finds out their partner has been cheating but also to the cheating party. Feelings of insignificance, anxiety, and depression, mixed with frustration and anger can cause the relationship to spiral into a place of no return.

However, i will be sharing with you 3 devastating consequences of infidelity in a marriage:

1.) Issues with Trust

After infidelity strikes a marriage, the innocent party may have issues trusting again. Not surprisingly, not only will a victim of infidelity mistrust their partner sexually and emotionally, he or she might also begin to doubt them around others. In the wake of an affair, more and more lies come out and that makes trust very difficult. It then becomes easy to feel doubtful toward your partner in other aspects of life such as financing and parenting. Confidence will also plummet as a result of broken trust. The person who is being cheated on will suffer a major blow to his or her self-esteem. They may feel embarrassed and think they weren’t enough. They may even question their attraction, their intelligence and their personality which can bring them into an even deeper depression that will take them a long time to recover from.

2.) It Causes Emotional Destruction

When you discover your spouse has been unfaithful, it has a devastating effect on you emotionally. Cheating can create a level of stress and anxiety that can trigger an even bigger depressive episode. The cheating party often has a tendency to cast blame on the innocent spouse or spouses in order to throw off their own feelings of guilt. They play the game of making the innocent spouse the culprit. They spend so much time trying to convince friends and family that the innocent spouse caused the problems that led to their infidelity. This is turn cause even more emotional turmoil and destruction. They spend all this time trying to paint the picture of innocence, but they know better than anyone that this image is fabricated and can never be made into something sustainable.

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3.) It Destroys Relationships Around You

Cheating not only destroys your marriage, it destroys the relationships around you. Cheaters victimize relationships with children, loving friends, other close family members, and themselves. Infidelity is not only an embarrassment to the cheating party but also the cheaters’ families. They often suffer from pain, embarrassment and awareness of community gossip. The effects of cheating on the spouse can be lasting and may forever change a person’s outlook on relationships and life. A second relationship or marriage could suffer repercussions stemming from the previous marriage if the victimized spouse is not healed. Many second spouse experience spousal punishment because of the errors of the previous spouse. They are often thought of as angry, bitter or mad when they’re still grieving emotionally.

Mary Ama
Mary Ama
A passionate writer with the sauce. I do that to get you entertained without a 404 page.
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